Teach Your Child To Accept Not Being Accepted

How To Teach Your Child To Accept Not Being Accepted by Laura St John

We’ve all had thoughts of insecurity – even as adults.  Do I look fat in this outfit?  Does my hair look stylish?  Am I doing a good job at work?  Why wasn’t I invited to that party? We all have thoughts like this that go in and out of our minds.

But for children, sometimes these thoughts don’t easily go away.  These feelings of not being accepted by others take their toll every day.  How can we help as parents or caregivers of children?

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Building self-esteem in ourselves and our children takes effort.  Everything we hear and say to others affects how they think of themselves.  So, we can break people down or we can build them up.  This is why when I read my books to children; I always tell them that words have power.

Bug Book

As people read my book, “Don’t Judge A Bug By It’s Cover, there is a subtle message of kind word power throughout the book. The two main characters are building each other up from the sadness they are feeling:  Lace is lonely and Mr. Roach feels unworthy of love.

This is the underlying issue with most feelings that children have due to not being accepted by others.  And in turn, these feelings can grow with them over time and become part of who they are.  In fact, many of the school shootings can be linked to a feeling of loneliness, disconnection and not being accepted. 

We are all different; that is the beauty of humankind. We all need to not judge on physical appearance. We should try to build people up who might need some reassurance, as well as connect with people who are outcast.

Use good words with children and always catch them doing good versus always pointing out the bad.  Teach your children to believe in themselves and to use kind words with school friends and teachers.  Reach out to those who might need help or just a friend that cares. 

Like Taylor Swift said, “Shake it off” when others put us down.  Most people put others down when they don’t feel good about themselves.  Learning to “shake it off” is one of the best things to teach children.  As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

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We are all connected and when one of us is lost, then deep inside we all are lost.  We are all in this together to make this world a better place for everyone.

Laura St. John

About the Author: Laura St John ison a mission to spread kindness by teaching children to accept themselves and accept other children who may be different.

Laura is a wife, and mom, and she works with children who have been abused and removed from their homes. She’s the author of two popular children’s books, Don’t Judge a Bug By Its Cover, and The Christmas House.

Autographed copies of Laura’s books are available at http://laurastjohnenterprises.com/



  • Hi Laura Just finished reading your email and photo of you is terrific. Sat outside for a while. Now I’m in the Florida room where 4 residents are playing dominos. It’s better than sitting. In my apartment.. Your decision to go out of town to spread the word. about your books is a good one with your friendly personality and talent. You are brave to take off to unknown destinations. Take your time and keep in touch. Also, Skylar or Charlie are around to take care of your pets. Want to stop by for dinner on the way home? Keep me informed on your latest news. Miss you. Mom

  • Anxious to see your new book. You have so much creative talent like your Dad. Next time we see each other bring one with you. You sound very cheerful and optomistic about your future plans to visit Savannah and include a stopover to see me. Can’t find the pink stylus which made it easier to send a message.. Using my pinky. Have emails to catch up with also. Mom

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