Is your sex life boring?
Has your sex appeal ditched you?
Has your libido walked out the door?
When your bedroom becomes a bored-room, it’s time to investigate why your sex life is boring and has taken a nose dive.
Remember those first few months when you first met, when you could not wait to climb under the bed clothes?
Wild frantic teasing and the urge to just get naked at every possible opportunity?
But things have somewhat changed and after chasing the kids around all day and mopping the floor for the third time of the day, when bed time comes round you want your bed for one thing only and that thing is sleep.
The thought of having sex makes you feel more exhausted.
Maybe it’s just a passing phase, that time of the month or one of those “bad hair days”. All you know is sex seems like just another chore to mark off the list.
When did sex become a chore?
Sex life boring? Well listen up
Some believe that the more sex they have the more desire or satisfaction they feel with their sex life. This is not true. No matter how often you have sex, if it’s working for you, you’re fine.
Quality over quantity. There are no recommendations when it comes to how often you should be having sex. This all depends on each couple.
If you are experiencing problems within your relationship, the last thing you want to do is be intimate.
Taking a look and communicating can often resolve this problem.
Honesty is your best policy.
If your not happy with your relationship then talk about it.
Resentments kept locked away will fester and escalate until they reach the boiling point, and then someday you’ll explode, possibly saying things that could causing hurt and even damage to your relationship.
Spur of the moment sex can be fun, have a long soak and shave those legs.
Put on some perfume and even your make up at midnight, then choose a sexy outfit and just pounce.
Even better come down from your bath wearing your birthday suit.
Just do something that hes not expecting you to do.
Sex toys have been around for years and we all know what a battery operated friend is.
But introducing them can make some shy away.
Don’t knock them if you have not tried them !
If your partner is a little shy, try massage complete with warmed body oil. Usually this will open the door to other, more risque activities.
Have fun !
Sexual board games and card games can also be rather fun, try strip poker, strip Monopoly or even strip Twister. Just push a chair against the door in case little people wake up.
Try new positions, we all get bored of the same old thing.
Take a look at the Karma Sutra for inspiration.
Do not be afraid to try new things.
It can often be more of a giggle.
Sex is meant to be fun!
Dress up and play role models. Perhaps you could be the teacher and hes been a very naughty boy, get out a whip or belt and punish him.
Try not to hurt him too much tho!
One of the most common reasons we become bored is that we get so used to the quick and efficient sex. You know the type: you go straight for the hot spots and do the minimum just to get the job done in the least amount of time.
It becomes such a routine that you know exactly what your partner is going to do before they even do it, is it any wonder your saying your sex life is boring .
Take the time to explore, and both you and your partner may be surprised at the other fun areas you stumble across.
Remember to make time not only for yourself but for your partner too. Its all so very easy to just be mummy and wife. You are a person too and by taking time out for yourself and doing things that you enjoy will make you feel better about yourself.
If you just don’t “want it” then don’t have it. Having sex when your mind is just not on the job so to speak, makes it non enjoyable and definitely just another chore.
Stop doing it to just please him.
Do it because you want too.
Sex life boring? Are you going to try any of these tips?