I met my ex-partner when I was just 16; we stayed together for 4 years. I was raped by my ex partner and I watched as he just walked away.
I had many male friends and he hated them, all of them, he was very jealous.
He cheated on me and that’s the reason why I broke up with him, I could no longer trust him. All those times he had stopped me from going to see him at mums house now made sense, his other girlfriend had been there.
I was heartbroken.
I started seeing someone else and we remained somewhat friends.
As soon as my ex got wind that I was dating someone new he stuck his nose in, telling me to finish with him as he was on drugs, which was not true.
He became angry and demanded to see me, said we had things to talk about.
I just wanted him off my back so I agreed to meet him, to put an end to all this once and for all.
He had to let me get on with my life.
He invited me to his but it was quite some distance and he told me I could go, we could talk and then I could stay the night at his as I hadn’t long been out of hospital after having my appendix removed.
He seemed sincere and I agreed.
It may seem odd to some but he was my friend and we had been in a relationship for 4 years, it didn’t seem a wrong thing to do.
He wasn’t too pleased to see me.
Didn’t agree when I said he had no right to tell me what to do.
I told him I was not finishing with my new boyfriend and that was the end of it.
The night didn’t go to plan and we ended up arguing.
But I never thought he would hurt me, I wasn’t afraid of him that way.
I was raped by my ex that night
After going up to bed, I fell asleep in his bed; He was sleeping on the sofa. I must have only been asleep an hour when I was woken up by him sat on the edge of the bed.
He came towards me and I pushed him away, telling him no, I didn’t want that to happen.
He raped me.
Afterwards he got dressed and just walked out of the room.
I cried in bed for some time and then went to see if he was sleeping, he was. I used the house phone to phone a friend who arranged to come and collect me.
She took me to my sister in laws house where I phoned the police.
I then had to be examined by a police doctor and go through again what had happened.
I was raped by my ex and here I was at 4 am in the morning sat in the police station, it just didn’t seem real.
I became depressed, lost over 5 stone in weight. I ended up separating from my boyfriend. I couldn’t bear to be touched.
In the court room my ex told how I had wanted it, it had been consented.
“No it wasn’t” I wanted to scream, but I had to just sit back and listen to his lies.
It was my word against his in the end and he walked away free, there was not enough evidence.
I got back with the guy who had supported me through it all, we had only broke up because I was depressed and felt so useless.
It’s been 11 years since I was raped by my ex and my relationship with my partner is still going strong.
My ex raped me because I was seeing a new guy, well he may have walked away free but I had the last laugh as I am happy and living my life with a man who loves and respects me.
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