I was only 19 when I fell for a married man. He used to come to the hotel where I worked behind the bar.
He always came alone; he never came with his wife so I didn’t know when we started flirting and starting a new romance that he was in fact a married man.
He was good with words and knew how to make me feel special.
Telling me that ”she doesn’t understand me and you are so much more fun.
He told me that it felt different with me and I wanted to believe him so much.
He was charming and so attentive, and older than me, he was 35.
It was fun to start with, but being his second priority, the other women in his life all the time wasn’t a nice feeling.
He would leave me waiting in bars/cafes because he had to cancel on me. Something always came up. She needed him to do something or she wanted to go somewhere.
I fell for a married man without even knowing he was married
I gathered it wasn’t really my fault but was now beginning to regret it.
When I thought about ending it and tried to talk to him about it he would make out he needed me and always said he was leaving her for me.
He was so sly about it all; it was so off putting at the end, it was no longer fun.
I could not wear perfume in case she smelt it on him
After sex he would wash, so there was no trace of me.
He would call at silly times at expect me to just go to him.
I was the one lying and making up stories and I was also the one who was free to do as I wanted.
It was me feeling guilty, I felt for his wife and when it got too much he dumped me and unless I wanted his wife to find out I couldn’t do a thing about it.
I couldn’t talk to anyone about it; it was such a lonely time for me.
I fell for a married man and he just dumped me, used me and then left me.
I had to see him with his wife around where we lived and she had just had a baby. So quite clearly things were better with her than he made out.
I know I was with her man but I never wanted to hurt her.
There was no way I was going to tell her and hurt her so he got what he wanted and I had nothing, I would never do it again.
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