The subject that touches my heart the most has to be domestic violence. I lived it and I survived yet I know not everyone is as lucky.
1 in 4 women will be a victim of domestic violence in their lifetime – many of these on a number of occasions.
One incident of domestic violence is reported to the police every minute.
On average, 2 women a week are killed by a current or former male partner. (Women’s Aid)
When a mother comes to me and asks if I have time for a chat, I never have the heart to say no, even if I am busy, I always make the time. When she tells me she is afraid of her partner and wants to leave him but is far too scared to do so, my heart aches for her.
I don’t think of myself as anything special and I am certainly not an expert or professional. but if I can help a mother in some small way then that’s what I aim to do. If I don’t know the answer then I will find it from somewhere.
If a mother comes to me in distress and wants out, then we get her out and safety. I can provide support, personal experience and professionals who can help her. I don’t feel I do anything, I just listened.
I have had to phone the police on behalf of a mother before who had locked herself in the bedroom, her partner was trying to kick the door in to get to her. The mother inboxed me her address and begged me to help. I helped.
I have several mothers who have finally found the courage to leave and contacted their local refuge centre and escaped. I still keep in touch with these mums today.
There was a time I felt afraid, alone and feared for my own life. When you live in a world of abuse and you have no control, you become accustomed somewhat to that. I understand how a mother feels when she believes she cannot leave an abusive relationship.
It is a feeling of relief when I know they have walked away and stayed away. I also feel a sense of pride when mothers I know do finally brake free. I know all to well how much courage that takes.
I don’t do much, it is them who are brave and inspiring and I know their own experiences will go on to help so many others.